Be the eye of the storm

My world fell apart on the morning of the 24 June 2016. I lost my home. Not in a physical way. Not in a practical way, although that is debatable. My sense of belonging was wiped out with the outcome of the Brexit referendum in the UK. This is a heartache I hadn’t imagined. Worse than losing a loved one, however tragically. No matter of reasoning with myself seems to heal the pain so far. It hit me particularly hard due to my family history, anyway all of this is actually irrelevant. Long story short, shit happened, continues on happening, some serious, some is just annoying. C’est la vie. I’m becoming more resilient, I’m being extremely cautious in my interactions with people and how I let them in, I’m rebuilding my tribe. Life goes on, the universe keeps on testing all this.

The point of all this is that my meditation practice evolved to this extremely useful session. I use it daily. My children use it. A few special friends use it. I really ought to share it to a wider audience. Enjoy. Pay it forward. I mean, donations will be welcome of course, but please share it to anyone you think will find peace of mind with this. All I ask is your feedback on it, and due recognition to this heartchild of mine.

There’s a recording kicking about, I’ll post this some time soon and will update this post.

The meditation

Settle in a comfortable position, observe the points of contact between your body and its support. Note the pressure points. Note the difference in temperature. Adjust your body. Breathe. Relax. Observe. Listen to your breath. Acknowledge the noises outside, the thoughts in your head. Allow them to pass. Listen to your breath. Feel your chest expanding. And contracting. In. Let go. Out. Observe its rhythm. The patterns. Is it smooth as the air comes in through your nostrils? Does it stutter? Breathe. Let go. Breathe in, and a little bit more. Let go. Breathe out longer. And then some more. Allow the breath to flow back in. Observe how it fills your lungs. Breathe out. Observe how your chest expands as you breathe in, and your rib cage too. Let go of the tensions. Relax. The noise around you is life that continues. Breathe in and enjoy stepping back for a moment, feel how the air fills your lungs, your shoulders rise, your chest expands your rib cage opens, your stomach lifts. Let go slowly. Follow your breath, its sounds, the feels, the change in energy.

Your eyes relax and are closed, your face is soft, allow a smile to form as you breathe in… and let go of any tension that remains.

Breathe in, stretch and relax your shoulders. Breathe out let go of any tension that remains.

Breathe in, clench and relax your arms. Breathe out let go of any tension that remains.

Breathe in, clench and relax your hands. Breathe out let go of any tension that remains.

Breathe in, stretch and relax your chest. Breathe out let go of any tension that remains.

Breathe in, stretch and relax your ribs. Breathe out let go of any tension that remains.

Breathe in, stretch and relax your stomach. Breathe out let go of any tension that remains.

Breathe in, stretch and relax your back. Breathe out let go of any tension that remains.

Breathe in, stretch and relax your hips. Breathe out let go of any tension that remains.

Breathe in, stretch and relax your lower back. Breathe out let go of any tension that remains.

Breathe in, clench and relax your buttocks. Breathe out let go of any tension that remains.

Breathe in, clench and relax your thighs. Breathe out let go of any tension that remains.

Breathe in, clench and relax your calves. Breathe out let go of any tension that remains.

Breathe in, stretch and relax your ankles. Breathe out let go of any tension that remains.

Breathe in, clench and relax your toes. Breathe out let go of any tension that remains.

Imagine light rooting out from your feet into the centre of the Earth, grounding your energy. Breathe in, be one, be present. The noises outside and the thoughts in your head continue while you are relaxed, grounded, with your breath, in control. Let them be, they form the wind around you. You are grounded. The wind picks up. You are centred. Breathe. Be the calm and surrounded by light in contrast to the storm around you.

You are merely aware of your thoughts and noises swirling as the wind around you. Breathe. Let them be. Allow the wind to go faster while you stay calm, relaxed, at ease, and breathe. You can observe the wind and the thoughts it has picked up. Some are situations. Some are perceptions. You are calm, relaxed, in control, and breathe. There are facts. There are noises. You are calm, relaxed, at ease, and breathe.

You are the eye in this storm. Breathe. Know that there used to be a version of you that would have jumped right in. That was then. Love them and let them go. Now you are calm, relaxed, in control, and breathe.

The wind around you picks up again. You remain in the peaceful centre. Watching. You can choose to grab one of the situations out of the wind. With love and compassion, you choose your response to unpick what you want, if you want, when you want. Or just let it go.

Breathe. You are present. You are grounded. You are calm. You are the eye of the storm and master of your response. You choose. Your time. Your space. The resolution you want to workout for you. Breathe. Allow the process to continue as you bring your awareness back to the physical world. Breathe. Return to your body. Breathe.

Observe the contact points between your body and support. Breathe. Stretch. Breathe out. Relax.

Touch the ground around you. Tap your feet, or and hands on the floor.

Place your hands over your eyes. When you’re ready, open your eyes, let the light in, gently tap your fingers around your eyes. Breathe. Enjoy how calm and relaxed you remain.

Keep that way, keep going with the ebb and flow of your day.

Reiki meditation zen eye of the storm feel good be wellMeditation and reiki. Photo credit Pixabay App.

With all my love, find your peace, be kind.

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Let’s talk skincare, shall we?

Sleep, hydrate, exercise, feed, supplement, repeatTips for a healthy glow

Hands up who’s got skin, AND who wants their skin to feel sooo good they don’t even need to think about it anymore.

Gosh do I love wearing little to no make up! I was never super keen on slapping the war paint on, but for the past 20 years i was feeling it was necessary. Except that every morning, as I was putting on the foundation, then the powder, and the blush, and the eye shadows, and the highlighter, and the bronzer… every layer, every brush stroke was reinforcing “I have imperfections I want to hide to the outside world” and it never felt right.

It’s quite a powerfully negative message when you think about it. It spells out “not good enough”. And we all fall for it. The make up industry is built on these insecurities.

Then there’s the whole issue about what we put on our skin, which is the largest absorbing organ in our body. Ever thought about that? A decade or so ago (ok 15+) I noticed how certain cosmetics were better than others for my skin. It was well worth the expense I thought. Rhetorical question, but how many people can afford lugging £500 worth of war paints around, to hide their skin, plus the regular expense in a bid to solve the concerns?

I toyed around with many things, wearing no make up wasn’t really great and pamper sessions are nice. Anyway back in 2016, when my eldest started playing with essential oils, we started making lotions and potions. Fun activities for the kids, brilliant use for mum, here I was making my own skincare (and teaching the children some good life skills!). The improvements were noticeable. That’s due to using natural products from reliable sources. No more rubbish on my skin. Within a few weeks, I had somewhat of a Botox effect, and I finally started going without makeup. It was fab, a good start. My skin tone still wasn’t super even, and my skin could feel raw at times. It just wasn’t ideal, and I’d have to reach for Bobbi’s support every so often. It was progress, but I was still looking to optimise the wellbeing of my skin.

If you know me, then you know that I tend to dig to the core of an issue and I will always look for a holistic solution. That healthy skin glow is the reflection of your total health, therefore achieving the glow starts deeper. It takes care from both inside and out

Tips for a healthy glow from inside:

  1. Sleep – 7 to 8 hours and practice relaxation. One may be able to survive or even function on less, but to thrive and get that healthy glow, that’s non-negotiable.
  2. Hydrate – drink for your bodyweight and activity level. (Papa, I mean water!) Think 2 litres a day for your average human.
  3. Exercise – move about, do something that you enjoy, use that body of yours, it doesn’t have to be in a gym or even sports, but move that bum about.
  4. Eat real food – stick to a human diet preferably, it’s bad enough that our vegetables don’t quite bring all the vitamins they did 50 years ago, please use common sense before depriving your body of nourishment.
  5. Supplement – Food: not that rubbish from so H&B, or worse the supermarket. If you value your health truly, then please use the real stuff that’s pharmaceutical grade, with a guaranteed manufacturing standard. Do your research, do the tests yourself.
  6. Repeat – daily action is required. The cumulative effect of daily action is what yields results.

The finishing touches

That’s not where the story ends. The tips above are simple, but they are not easy for everyone. We need to look at the external care better… In March 2018, something else came along. A skincare that’s not only clean, made with natural ingredients but also boosted with the latest advances in cellular health science. Eeek!!! That’s my boxes ticked straight away. A few of my “health friends” had been trying it out, in particular Joyce, whose cheeks had turned baby-bottom-soft in the space of a few months really made me want to try this regimen out.

Oh the bliss. Here I was, at my sink, and my skin was feeling like I’d spent an hour at the spa. The freshness from the gentle cleanse, the plumpness from the hydration, the overall wow… just that from washing my face, apply a toner, serum and face cream?! At home?! Say whaaat?

Fast forward 4 weeks, the only makeup I’m wearing is mascara and lipstick. The big win is that my husband’s wrinkles are reducing, his rosacea is nowhere to be seen, heck he looks younger! Ok it’s easier to see the difference on him since he’s a smoker and likes a drink. The only thing he changed that month was his skincare regimen. It’s kind of striking.

The difference in my pics is more subtle, in the “I am happy having a selfie taken without makeup now” kind of way. For me it means the world. Sorry Bobbi, I think we’ve just parted, my bank account is happier already (it isn’t, I now spend the money on massage or reiki, it’s awesome!!!

So… who is keen on luscious skin with no makeup?

As I was saying earlier, hands up who’s got skin, and wants it to feel good by making a simple swap in their skincare? If you know anyone fitting the description, send them my way. If they’re in Southampton or London, I’ll happily give them a live demo, let’s have a party!


Tantric yoga promotes multiple orgasms for men

Stumbled upon this article today. Great read on a fantastic technique. Because let’s be honest, sex has got to be one of the best relaxation practice, and it needs to be done right.
Via mindbodygreen on Facebook

Tantric yoga promotes multiple orgasms for men